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  • Bound and Tethered Booklist

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    Rooted in the wisdom of Black scholars, rebels, and mystics—

    • The Fire Next Time by _James Baldwin_
    • They Came Before Columbus: The African Presence in Ancient America by _Ivan Van Sertima_
    • The Destruction of Black Civilization by _Chancellor Williams_
    • The Mis-Education Of The Negro by _Carter G. Woodson_
    • We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity by _bell hooks_
    • Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? by _Beverly Daniel Tatum_
    • Hoodoo Herb & Root Magic by _Catherine Yronwode_
    • The Isis Papers: The Keys to the Colors by _Frances Cress Welsing_
    • Ain’t I a Woman: Black Women & Feminism by _bell hooks_
    • Fearing the Black Body by _Sabrina Strings_
    • Black Magic Woman & Narrative Film: Race, Sex & Afro-Religiosity by _Montré Aza Missouri_
    • Brainwashed: Challenging the Myth of Black Inferiority by _Tom Burrell_
    • Immigration and the Remaking of Black America by _Tod G. Hamilton, Douglas S. Massey_
    • The Color of Money: Black Banks and the Racial Wealth Gap by _Mehrsa Baradaran_
    • Black Power by _Kwame Ture (Stokely Carmichael) & Charles V. Hamilton_
    • Black Against Empire by _Joshua Bloom_
    • Changing School Culture for Black Males by _Jawanza Kunjufu_
    • Killing the Black Body by _Dorothy Roberts_
    • The Myth and Propaganda of Black Buying Power by _Jared A. Ball_

    Rope and BDSM Practice

    Books in this section ground the sacred, sensual for practitioners, ritualists, and those who wield intention.

    • Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes by _Two Knotty Boys_
    • Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes by _Two Knotty Boys & Marcus, Ken_
    • Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé by _Lee Harrington_
    • Essence of Shibari by _Shin Nawakari_
    • Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook by _Jay Wiseman_
    • The Toybag Guide To Foot And Shoe Worship by _Midori_
    • SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by _Jay Wiseman_
    • The New Topping Book by _Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy_
    • The New Bottoming Book by _Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy_
    • The Loving Dominant by _John Warren_
    • The Compleat Slave by _Jack Rinella_
    • Master-Slave Relations: Theory and Practice by _Robert J. Rubel_
    • SlaveCraft by _a grateful slave, Guy Baldwin, Joseph W. Bean_
    • Protocols Handbook for the Female Slave by _Robert J. Rubel_
    • Partners In Power: Living in Kinky Relationships by _Jack Rinella_
    • The Leatherman’s Protocol Handbook by _John Weal_
    • The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by _Lady Green_
    • 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by _Tristan Taormino_
    • The Ultimate Guide to Kink by _Tristan Taormino_
    • Thinking Kink: The Collision of BDSM, Feminism and Popular Culture by _Catherine Scott_
    • The Ritual of Dominance & Submission by _David English_
    • Training of a Slave by _Philippe De Coster_
    • Creating a Personal Protocol by _Shannon Reilly_
    • Extreme Space: The Domination and Submission Handbook by _FRR Mallory_
    • Discipline: Adding Rules & Discipline to Your BDSM Relationship by _Lily Lloyd_
    • How to Be Kinky: A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM by _Morpheous_
    • Becoming a Slave by _Jack Rinella_
    • Dom’s Guide to Submissive Training (Volumes 1 & 2) by _Elizabeth Cramer_
    • BDSM Playbook: Beginner’s Guide by _Melissa Beach_
    • Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus by _Christina Abernathy_
    • Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission by _Claudia Varrin_
    • The Dominant Wife Handbook by _Mistress Jessica_
    • Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know by _Elizabeth Cramer_

    🔸 Erotic Power & Sacred Sexuality

    These books explore sexuality as worship and devotion—blending eros, mythos, and power .

    • Sacred Pleasure: Sex, Myth, and the Politics of the Body by _Riane Eisler_
    • Beyond Tantra: Healing Through Taoist Sacred Sex by _Mieke Wik & Stephan Wik_
    • Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by _Barbara Carrellas_
    • Radical Ecstasy by _Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy_
    • The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by _Jack Morin_
    • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by _Esther Perel_
    • The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by _Charlie Glickman_
    • The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by _Lady Green_
    • Mind Play: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by _Mark Wiseman_
    • Pillow Talk: A Comprehensive Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by _Michael Scott_
    • The Mammoth Book of Erotic Romance and Domination by _Maxim Jakubowski_
    • The Hesitant Mistress by _Dvanna Hightower_
    • Techniques of Pleasure: BDSM and the Circuits of Sexuality by _Margot Weiss_
    • Pleasure Activism by _adrienne maree brown_
    • Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation by _Princess Kali_
    • Erotic Massage for Healing and Pleasure by _K. A. T. Smith_
    • Sex Tips from a Dominatrix by _Patricia Payne_
    • Sex Power and Pleasure by _Mariana Valverde_
    • Sex Magick: The Best of The Equinox Volume III by _Aleister Crowley_
    • Ecstasy Through Tantra by _Jonn Mumford_
    • The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms & Female Ejaculation by _Tristan Taormino_
    • The Mind Whisperer – Erotic Hypnosis by _Shane Hill_
    • HypnoDomme: Forbidden Erotic Hypnosis Secrets Revealed by _Kali DuBois_
    • The Economics of Ecstasy: Tantra, Secrecy, and Power in Colonial Bengal by _Hugh B. Urban_
    • The Power of Tantra by _Hugh B. Urban_
    • The Encyclopedia of Sacred Sexuality by _Rufus C. Camphausen_
    • Exploring Black Sexuality by _Robert Staples_
    • Screening the Marquis de Sade: Pleasure, Pain and the Transgressive Body in Film by _Lindsay Anne Hallam_
    • The Multi-Orgasmic Couple by _Mantak & Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams_
    • Secrets of Western Tantra by _Christopher S. Hyatt, Lon Milo DuQuette, Israel Regardie_

    Spirituality, Mysticism & Ritual

    Mystical, esoteric, and magical. These books are spiritual, ritual, and sacred alignment.

    • Sexual Magic by _Paschal Beverly Randolph_
    • Maat: The Ultimate Guide to Maat Philosophy, Principles, and Magick by _Mari Silva_
    • Of Water and the Spirit by _Malidoma Patrice Somé_
    • Taboo: Sex, Religion & Magick by _Christopher S. Hyatt & Lon Milo DuQuette_
    • Sensuous Magic: A Guide to SM by _Patrick Califia_
    • Female Dominance Rituals and Practices by _Claudia Varrin_
    • The Red Goddess by _Peter Grey_
    • Ritual Magic Workbook by _Dolores Ashcroft-Nowicki_
    • Drawing Down the Spirits by _Kenaz Filan_
    • The New Orleans Voodoo Handbook by _Kenaz Filan_
    • Vodou Love Magic by _Kenaz Filan_
    • Talking to the Spirits by _Kenaz Filan_
    • Neolithic Shamanism: Spirit Work in the Norse Tradition by _Raven Kaldera & Galina Krasskova_
    • Moon Spells by _Diane Ahlquist_
    • Everyday Moon Magic by _Dorothy Morrison_
    • Moon Magic by _Dion Fortune_
    • Make Magic of Your Life by _T. Thorn Coyle_
    • Evolutionary Witchcraft by _T. Thorn Coyle_
    • The Magick of Thelema by _Lon Milo DuQuette_
    • Magick in Theory and Practice by _Aleister Crowley_
    • Golden Dawn Enochian Magic by _Pat Zalewski_
    • Psychedelics and Spirituality by _Thomas B. Roberts_
    • Spirit of Desire by _Lee Harrington_
    • Grimoire for the Green Witch by _Ann Moura_
    • Practical Magic for Beginners by _Brandy Williams_
    • Cord Magic by _Brandy Williams_
    • Qabbalistic Magic by _Salomo Baal-Shem_
    • Planetary Spells & Rituals by _Raven Digitalis_
    • Pagan Astrology by _Raven Kaldera_
    • Angel Tech: A Modern Shaman’s Guide to Reality Selection by _Antero Alli_
    • Divining Ecstasy: The Mystical Essence of Salvia Divinorum by _Sean Shayan_
    • The Enochian Magick of Dr. John Dee by _Geoffrey James_
    • Sexual Alchemy: Magical Intercourse with Spirits by _Anonymous (Alchemy Journal)_
    • Yoga Mind, Body & Spirit by _Donna Farhi_
    • Spiritual Disciplines (Bollingen Series) by _Joseph Campbell & Rudolf Bernoulli_
    • Secrets of Western Tantra by _Christopher S. Hyatt & others_
    • Igniting Intimacy by _Rowan Bombadil_

    🔸 Somatic Healing & Psychology

    This section connects the body, trauma, and spirit—offeringsomatic awareness, nervous system healing, and emotional integration.

    • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by _Bessel van der Kolk, MD_
    • In an Unspoken Voice by _Peter A. Levine_
    • Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by _Peter A. Levine_
    • Freedom From Pain by _Peter A. Levine_
    • Trauma and Memory by _Peter A. Levine & Bessel A. van der Kolk_
    • Healing the Traumatized Self by _Paul Frewen_
    • Eastern Body, Western Mind by _Anodea Judith_
    • Sacred Pain: Hurting the Body for the Sake of the Soul by _Ariel Glucklich_
    • The Art of Somatic Coaching by _Richard Strozzi-Heckler_
    • Triggers: How We Can Stop Reacting and Start Healing by _David Richo_
    • Activate the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve by _Eric Hermann_
    • Attached by _Amir Levine & Rachel Heller_
    • Getting Past the Pain Between Us by _Marshall B. Rosenberg_
    • Measuring Ego Development by _Jane Loevinger & Lê Xuân Hy_
    • The Politics of Trauma by _Staci K. Haines_
    • Healing Your Inner Child and Yourself For Life by _Veronica Bond_
    • The Psychology of Personal Constructs (Vols 1 & 2) by _George A. Kelly_
    • Martin Buber on Psychology and Psychotherapy by _Martin Buber & Judith Buber Agassi_
    • The Discovery of Being: Writings in Existential Psychology by _Rollo May_
    • The Psychology of B.F. Skinner by _William T. O’Donohue & Kyle E. Ferguson_
    • Psychology from the Standpoint of a Behaviorist by _John B. Watson_
    • The Body in Pain: The Making and Unmaking of the World by _Elaine Scarry_
    • Tortured Subjects: Pain, Truth and the Body in Early Modern France by _Lisa Silverman_
    • The Eight-Circuit Brain by _Antero Alli_
    • The Psychology of Self-Hatred and Self-Defeat by _Amos N. Wilson_
    • Beyond the Known: Realization by _Paul Selig_
    • Buddhist I Ching by _Thomas Cleary (Translator)_
    • Richard Wilhelm by _The Secret of the Golden Flower: A Chinese Book of Life_

    🔸 Power, Relationships & Communication

    Wisdom for lovers, vessels and partners. These books refine your communication, deepen consent, and center ethical relating.

    • Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame by _Tara Brach_
    • The Ethical Slut by _Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy_
    • Polysecure by _Jessica Fern_
    • To Love To Obey To Serve by _V.M. Johnson_
    • A Woman’s Guide to a Female-Led Relationship by _Victoria West_
    • The Good Wife’s Guide to Taking Charge by _Rebecca Lawson_
    • She Wants a Loving Female Led Relationship by _Te-Erika Patterson_
    • How to Love a Powerful Woman by _Te-Erika Patterson_
    • A Keyholder’s Diary by _Esther Park_
    • Finding Love Through Female Domination by _Renee Lane_
    • At Her Feet: Powering Your Femdom Relationship by _TammyJo Eckhart_
    • She’s In Control by _MsNN_
    • The Mastery of Love by _Don Miguel Ruiz_
    • Love’s Not Color Blind by _Kevin A. Patterson_
    • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by _Marshall B. Rosenberg_
    • Getting Past the Pain Between Us by _Marshall B. Rosenberg_
    • Daring to Trust by _David Richo_
    • How to Be an Adult in Relationships by _David Richo_
    • Creating Love by _John Bradshaw_
    • Unconditional Love: Love Without Limits by _John Joseph Powell_
    • The Secret of Staying in Love by _John Joseph Powell_
    • Freedom of Mind by _Steven Hassan_
    • Love & Will by _Rollo May_
    • The Lives of Erich Fromm: Love’s Prophet by _Lawrence J. Friedman_
    • Path to Love by _Deepak Chopra_
    • A Politics of Love by _Marianne Williamson_
    • A Return to Love by _Marianne Williamson_
    • Eros and the Mysteries of Love by _Julius Evola_
    • Transcendent Sex: When Lovemaking Opens the Veil by _Jenny Wade & Ken Wilber_
    • Geek Love by _Katherine Dunn_
    • The Polyvagal Theory by _Stephen W. Porges_
    • Chop Wood Carry Water by _Joshua Medcalf_
    • This Nonviolent Stuff’ll Get You Killed by _Charles E. Cobb Jr._

    🔸 Outer Circle

    These are books at the edge—less explicit in eroticism or ritual, yet still deeply resonant.

    • Igniting Intimacy by _Rowan Bombadil_
    • Richard Wilhelm by _The Secret of the Golden Flower: A Chinese Book of Life_
    • Paulo Freire, Myra Bergman Ramos, Donaldo Macedo by _Pedagogy of the Oppressed_
    • Beyond the Known: Realization (The Beyond the Known Trilogy) by _Paul Selig_
    • Buddhist I Ching by _Thomas Cleary (Translator)_
    • The Doors of Perception by _Aldous Huxley_
    • A CHARM SCHOOL FOR SISSY MAIDS by _Lorelei_
    • Worshipping Your Wife by _Mark Remond_
    • Why Women Should Rule The World by _William Bond_
    • Where I Am Led by _Christina Parker_
    • Venus On Top by _Barbara Abernathy_
    • Uniquely Rika by _Ms. Rika_
    • Tips and Tricks For KeyHolders by _Georgia Ivey Green_
    • The Truth About Sex: A Sex Primer for the 21st Century by _Gloria G. Brame_
    • The Surrendered Wife by _Laura Doyle_
    • The New Bride’s Guide to Training Her Husband by _Emily & Ken Addison_
    • The Forked Tongue Revisited: A Handbook for Treating People Badly by _Flagg_
    • The FemDom Experience by _Elise Sutton_
    • Akasha’s Web: Good Girl’s Guide To Domination by _AkashaWeb.com_
    • The Curious Human Phenomenon by _Peter Masters_
    • The Control Book by _Peter Masters_
    • The Adult Spanking and Discipline Handbook by _Gemma Forbes_
    • The Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women by _Claudia Varrin_
    • Taking Back Your Marriage by _Georgia Ivey Green_
    • Sexual Power for Women by _Georgeann Cross_
    • Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by _Phillip Miller & Molly Devon_
    • Safe Sane And Consensual by _Unknown_
    • RESTART INTIMACY by _Sierra Parker_
    • Real Service by _Joshua Tenpenny & Raven Kaldera_
    • Playing Well with Others by _Lee Harrington_
    • Paradigms Of Power by _Raven Kaldera_
    • Male Chastity – A Guide for Key Holders by _Lucy Fairborne_
    • Look Into My Eyes by _Peter Masters_
    • Lessons In Service From Charlie Trotter by _Unknown_
    • Leathersex by _Joseph Bean_
    • Leather And Latex Care by _Thibault_
    • Imaginative Sex by _John Norman_
    • How to Get Your Wife to Cuckold You by _Lionel Maximilien_
    • Health Care Without Shame by _Charles Moser_
    • Welcome to the list by _David_
    • Flogging by _Joseph W. Bean_
    • Discipline and Punish: The Birth of the Prison by _Michel Foucault_
    • Finding Your Domme by _Sydney & Logan Hart_
    • FemDom Training of Submissive Males by _Vanessa Chaland_
    • FemDom And Brainwashing Techniques by _William Bond_
    • How To Set Up An FLR by _Georgia Ivey Green_
    • Sissy Maid 101 by _Constance Pennington Smythe_
    • Female Domination by _Elise Sutton_
    • Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment by _Hardy Haberman_
    • Endless Knot by _Mathew Styranka_
    • Electro Stim Safety by _Lady Robin_
    • Domestic Discipline by _Jules Markham_
    • Dining With Humpty Dumpty by _Unknown_
    • Different Loving by _Gloria G. Brame_
    • Diary of an S&M Romance by _Dollie Llama_
    • Diary of a Submissive by _Sophie Morgan_
    • Devil In The Details I, II, III by _L.T. Morrison_
    • Control Your Submissive Boy by _Lockhart_
    • Consensual Spanking by _Jules Markham_

  • Knots and Rope Magic

    A sailor looks up at the linen cloth hanging flat in the rigging. Still no wind. Three days becalmed, and the rations are running low. He pulls out a thin rope tied with elaborate knots. There is nothing else to do now. He needs help. Blowing on the rope to wake it, he solemnly unties the knot. “Blow, wind, blow!” The whisper is both an invocation and a prayer.

    A dark-haired woman sits cross-legged by the fire. The circle of watchers lean in, expectant. With roving in one hand, she twirls the spindle, drawing out the wool into thin threads. As she spins, she hums an incantation—a blessing for warmth, for protection, for the unseen forces to hear.

    The dry stalks rattle in the summer heat. A Neanderthal woman crushes flax between her palms, pulling the fibers free. She twists them together, forming a rope, stronger with every turn. It must bear the weight of the holed stone she found—an amulet of power, of protection. She is so focused that she does not at first notice the human woman watching in silence. The human offers her own gathered flax. A gift. A sign. Magic recognizes magic.

    Knots of Power

    Binding and loosing. The art of the knot is an old magic, older than words, older than fire. Knots are tied for power, for love, for protection. To hold. To release. To control. There are three ways a knot works its will:

    • A knot is a wish made manifest.
    • A knot is a cage, capturing energy.
    • A knot is a timekeeper, storing power until the moment of release.

    The Mysticism of Rope

    Rope is primal. The first cord that binds us is the umbilical cord, our tether to life itself. Rope magic appears in every faith, every culture, every whispered tradition of the old world and the hidden world.

    • Red Kabbalah String: Wound around Rachel’s tomb for protection.
    • Genesis 38: Red thread marking the firstborn of Judah.
    • Christian Traditions: Red threads tied to babies for blessings.
    • Jewish Tallit: Blue tzitzit, a reminder of the divine.
    • Hindu Kalava: Red and gold thread, bound in sacred ritual.
    • Buddhist Threads: Used in blessings, weddings, deaths—tying spirits together and apart.
    • Shimenawa: Sacred ropes that mark where spirits dwell, binding them to this world.
    • Initiation and Lineage Cords: Marking rank, sealing oaths, binding destinies.
    • Handfasting: The old wedding rite, tying two souls as one.

    A rope can bless. A rope can curse.

    The Ritual of the Knot

    A knot is a paradox—both a source of strength and a point of weakness. A curve within a curve, a loop of captured will, it must be shaped with intent, tightened with purpose.

    Knots are taught through repetition, repetition, repetition. Learn them in darkness, learn them in silence. Tie them blindfolded, one hand bound. Take them apart, unravel their secrets. Study their patterns, their traps, their whispers. A knot, once tied, is an oath.

    To work the magic of the knot, do this:

    • Hold the rope in your hands. Feel its history, its breath, its pulse.
    • Speak your will into the rope, let the words soak into the fibers.
    • Tie the knot with purpose, whispering as you do:
      • “This knot holds my will.”
      • “This knot binds this fate.”
      • “This knot shall not break until I command it.”

    And when the time comes—when the spell is ripe, when the moment is now—untie the knot, slowly, deliberately.

    Release.

    The wind will blow. The fire will rise. The threads of fate will shift once more.