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  • Bondage as an act

    Rope engages both the body and mind in profound and fascinating ways, triggering a range of physiological and psychological responses. The sensation of rope on the skin activates the somatosensory system—especially the nerve endings in the skin and fascia that process touch and pressure. This stimulation begins to shift the brain out of scattered mental activity and into the parasympathetic “rest and digest” state, where healing, integration, and deep sensory presence become more accessible.

    Depending on intention and context, rope can evoke responses ranging from soothing comfort to cathartic intensity. Beyond the physical sensation, it quiets the noise of external distractions and draws awareness inward. This inward turn becomes a somatic anchor—a tether to the present moment that opens pathways for emotional release, spiritual attunement, and energetic transformation.

    By intentionally engaging the nervous system through rope, we invite a kind of sacred surrender—a state in which the body, mind, and spirit align in vulnerability, presence, and connection.

    Rope is more than physical restraint—it is a catalyst for powerful internal shifts. The combination of pressure, controlled stress, vulnerability, and deep trust initiates a cascade of neurochemical and physiological responses that reshape not only the body’s state, but also the emotional and spiritual experience of the scene.

    At the heart of this transformation is the release of endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers. Intense or restrictive ties stimulate these neurochemicals, which reduces pain and induces sensations of euphoria, relaxation.

    Oxytocin, often called the “love hormone” or “cuddle chemical,” plays a crucial role in the emotional and spiritual bonding that can occur during rope play. Released through touch, trust-building, and co-regulation, oxytocin promotes feelings of safety, intimacy, and attachment. It is especially active during aftercare, where grounding, cuddling, and affirming presence help partners integrate the experience. oxytocin supports “cathexis”—the investment of psychic energy,  process of attaching emotional significance to something.

    The experience engages the sympathetic nervous system, triggering adrenaline and cortisol. While often linked to danger, in a safe and consensual context, these chemicals heighten awareness, sensation, and excitement. increasing heart rate, sharpens focus, and flooding the body with energy. When experienced mindfully, cortisol can help release stored emotional tension, facilitating a cathartic, and spiritual, release.

    Following the scene, the body often shifts into parasympathetic regulation, producing serotonin, this feels like peace, safety, and completeness

  • Rope as a Modality for Spiritual Release

    I only have two arms to hold you. So let this ropes be an extension of will, let me wrap myself around you and keep you held. As I hold this rope in my hand, let me lock eyes with you as it passes from my will to yours, let it brings us into a shared space, outside worry. Let us dwell in each others’ presence. Let this line create a barrier between the outside and our inside. Let us bond between the lines, let us read between the lines of our intent, let us find the truths buried in each others’ eyes. The eyes are the window to the soul. So, let those windows open wide as I wrap around you, wrap my will around you, and bring out the secrets within you. Open wide and expose those secrets to me between the parting lips and the sweetest moans. Struggle for me, and know that I will keep you safe in these troubled times. In pain and desperation, I offer up safety to be the true you . Cry and show me your tears. Laugh and sing the songs of your heart. Let these chains that hold down give you a chance to hold nothing back. Open your soul and let me peer in. In this I contract to you, in this space before the Ancestors, that I shall give you safety while you struggle before me, that in giving up your freedom, I give you in return the freedom to fly.

    In this class, we will explore **physical and mental pathways to Spiritual Release. At the heart of this paradox is liberation through restraint. The intentional act of weaving sigils into flesh. We initiate an alchemical process that expands our capacity for pleasure by dissolving shame, resistance, and friction. We use rope as a somatic key, unlocking doors long hidden within the nervous system. The neurochemical symphony will collide with our will. We walk the edge between worlds. We return to the old ways. To bind and to loose. To hold and to release.

    Through integration of the conscious and unconscious mind, we will explore the art and science of intentionally causing change to occur in alignment with Will. to create a an as-yet-to-be-realized desire.

    We will journey beyond the edge and move through spirit walking, astral journeying, projection, psychic shapeshifting, rootwork, and divine surrender.

  • Common Rope Mistakes: What We Often Get Wrong

    I wrote this list a while ago now but it still feels true today

    1. Rushing into suspension too early.
    2. Misunderstanding bondage as just knots instead of connection and restraint.
    3. Attempting advanced ties with little knowledge and understanding of risks.
    4. Lack of education for rope bottoms 
    5. Believing rope bottoming is passive.
    6. Underestimating the difficulty and pain of rope bottoming.
    7. Not attending classes/workshops.
    8. Underestimating the dangers of rope.
    9. Having unrealistic expectations or goals about rope.
    10. Mismatched intentions between rope top and rope bottom.
    11. Dismissing input and copying techniques.
    12. Not recognizing and communicating boundaries and bodily responses.
    13. Being shy about expressing discomfort.
    14. Not checking in and encouraging communication.
    15. Confusing rope safety with personal safety.
    16. Fixation on specific skills/techniques, missing the broader journey and deeper aspects of rope, such as connection, energy, presence, focus, and intention.

  • Having Is Evidence of Wanting You Love that Pile of Shit

    Tell the truth Recently, I had a conversation with a family member—someone I love, but who has this looping tale they tell, over and over again: _“People never respect me. No one honors my boundaries. I’m always being taken advantage of.”_

    And of course, I listened. I nodded. I offered empathy. But eventually, I thought of Existential Kink By Carolyn Elliot , I couldn’t resist slipping into my kink and I gently asked:

    “What if part of you actually _likes_ it?”

    Their face changed, Their whole body stiffened, eyes flashing.
    And then came the chant,

    “I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. I _hate_ it.”

    They went into a kind of trance like egoic possession.

    And there it was: _evidence._

    Because the idea that we could _secretly enjoy_ our suffering is so taboo, so offensive, so _kinky_, that most people’s egos can’t handle it. We’ve been so programmed to believe we’re only allowed to desire good things—light, love, abundance, healing—that we’ve cut ourselves off from the darker, equally potent eroticism of failure, frustration, humiliation, rejection.

    But BAAAABBBBYYYYY, let’s be real:
    That red-hot flush of shame you feel when you’re rejected?
    That stuck, paralyzed feeling when you can’t create or move or rise?
    That humiliating little drama you keep reliving in love or money or body?

    That’s not _just_ pain. That’s arousal.
    That’s your psychic masochist doing her damn job.

    “Fear is excitement without the breath,” Fritz Perls said.

    and pain is _pleasure without approval_?

    I felt it with my family member. Their loop—the one they claimed to hate—was _lit up_ with psychic charge. The pain was electric. Addictive. And they weren’t ready to feel the truth beneath it:

    “I actually love this freaky shit, unconsciously of course.
    I get off on being disrespected.
    I love standing in this pile of shit because my pile of shit._
    And I’ve unconsciously do this again and again.”

    That admission? That’s the key part.
    When we consciously embrace our unconscious kink, the pattern loses its compulsion. The taboo loses some luster. The shame becomes a choice. And we regain out power.

    This is about looking deep enough into your own psyche to _own_ the pleasure that’s been running the show behind the scenes.

    Because as long as you insist you hate it—without ever allowing for the erotic charge of it—you’ll stay stuck with it.

    But once you say:

    _“Okay, fine. I do enjoy being stuck.
    I do enjoy being broke.
    I do enjoy feeling unseen.
    I do enjoy the cycle of almost getting there, but not quite.”_

    Then you can ask:
    “What part of me wants this? And what does it _need_ to feel satisfied?”

    that’s where the magic happens.

    Because the game here isn’t to _abolish_ the kink.
    It’s to make the kink conscious.

    Let’s be clear: _none of us invented this shit alone._

    They belong to the collective shadow. To our lineages. To the traumas of civilization. To the twisted divine that clearly gets off on the entire opera of human pain.

    We’re not separate from that. We _are_ that. your kinky little Godself, playing out a drama so dense its got your l thighs clench and your loving it.

    Your stagnation, your heartbreak, your sabotage?

    It’s not random. It’s not a punishment. you are fucking jacking off

    And once you let yourself _feel_ the secret pleasure in that, really _receive_ it—without shame, without guilt. you can get better toy baby we got you

    Having is evidence of wanting. I’m not blaming

    But in a deeply magical, wildly empowering, power-bottom-of-the-soul kind of way.

    We don’t get what we consciously want.
    We get what we unconscious craves.

    So stop denying your desire for drama.
    Get _off_ on it.
    And then—once you’ve truly savored it. Find something new

    Because that’s how the real magic happens, slut.

  • On Somatic Resonance

    Ive talked about this before but i have learned alot more about after research and reading and practicing Stephen Porges, Peter Levine, and *Bessel van der Kolk in rope session. if your not familiar these are the authors Polyvagal Theory which essentially is how our nervous system responds and how that is influencing our social behavior and emotional regulation, Waking the Tiger which is how to encourage and recuit the body own systems for healing, and the body keep the score which is which show how you how your body and your mind actively reshape on another. This creates a Language to communicate with. while this is not strictly rope related it has help me craft session with more intention and precision.

    When I begin a scene, I’m not thinking about the restraint—I’m thinking about architecture. How the body folds or opens, how tension is built or released, how position speaks to you.

    Closed shapes like fetal, curled, knees tucked inward—often inspire feelings of safety, introspection, and containment. They activate the parasympathetic nervous system, inviting rest, digestion, and co-regulation.

    In contrast, open positions—arms wide, heart exposed, pelvis elevated, or exposed—evoke vulnerability, surrender, power, or display. These shapes carry both somatic charge and symbolic weight. To expose the belly is to show trust. To lift the chest is to offer the heart. to offer the neck is a sign of submission.

    “The way shapes we hold changes the way we feel.” A tied body is a speaking body. The body speaking is the psyche speaking.

    I have noticed a Listening Beneath the Skin. The body is more than a vehicle—it is an archive.
    Our fascia holds memory, our **nervous system catalogs our experience , and our posture encodes and outputs both our past and our reality.

    Have you noticed how different ties evoke different emotional states—regardless of physical intensity? For example, How a chest harness make someone feel held?

    Resonance teaches us to listen to the echoes of sensation. A tight waist line may feel like a good back stretch—or a trigger. A ascendion may feel like flying—or floating away .

    The I think the key is intention, presence and purpose. The body responds to our invitation sympathetic (arousal) and parasympathetic (release) systems creates a dances with transition. We charge, then we discharge. We constrict, then we soften.we bind and we release.

    Some of the studies presented show what the mystics have been saying: _Change your posture, and you change your consciousness._

    “Power poses” increase testosterone and lower cortisol. Upright postures increase confidence and social presence. Slouched shoulders invite withdrawal. These postures are chemical**.

    Have you noticed your baseline. I have build the structure with the natural shape; but in doing invite them to inhabit new shapes which corresponds to new states of minds. That is where the invocation comes in. When I tie someone into an open shape, I’m not just putting them on display—I’m summoning a version of them that may not always get space to speak. When I collapse their posture into a fetal fold, I’m not making them small—I’m offering sanctuary. Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can offer someone is a shape they forgot they were allowed to inhabit.
    I feel like we are braidingourselves into the nervous system.** We attune with our bottom with communication, with check ins, but on a deeper level im watching the way the breathe, where in the body is holding energy, where pain or sensitivity might be coming from. I looking for signs to tell me whether we are moving into regulation or dyregulation. so that kinda the language that is being spoken. The rope carries a current we activate with compression, with rhythm, with co-regulation. You create this kind of resonance and type of coherence. I think this is why sometime the rope session feels like therapy. or going to the chiropractor. its a kind of realign with self.

    The body plays “game” to survive.
    When threat is perceived, energy mobilizes: fight, flight, freeze.
    But rope invites new games.     a kind of ritualized renegotiion helping the body discover a new strategy, a new story.

    By intentionally altering state through posture, sensation, and presence—we give the nervous system a chance to complete unfinished survival loops or unfinished business. To release what was held. To try on a different possibility. This is why a session may end with tears. Or laughter. Or silence.
    Because something moved. the body finally had space to speak its own language—and be heard.

    I guess im trying to say the body is not passive—it is alive, intelligent, and aware.

    To tie well is to listen deeply.
    To be tied well is to trust fiercely.
    And to witness both is to remember what it means to feel whole.

  • Chemicals play

    Oxytocin is known as the love hormone since this increases as you feel an intimate connection with your partner. This can also be raised by eating certain foods such as aphrodisiacs. Serotonin is released when the body feels comfortable and happy with doing an activity. Dopamine is released when doing self-care or feeling accomplished. Endorphins are increased when you have physical touch or feel pain.

  • The Timeless Quest for Desire: Exploring Aphrodisiacs, Sexual Dysfunction & Herbal Solutions

    The Timeless Quest for Desire: Exploring Aphrodisiacs, Sexual Dysfunction & Herbal Solutions

    Since antiquity, procreation has held immense spiritual, moral, and societal value. From fertility rituals to the sacred use of plant medicine, humans have long sought ways to increase sexual vitality and overcome dysfunctions that hinder intimacy and fulfillment. The desire to enhance sexual pleasure, performance, and connection transcends cultures and centuries — and is as relevant today as ever.

    Understanding Sexual Dysfunction

    Sexual dysfunction encompasses a wide range of challenges including:

    • Erectile dysfunction (ED)
    • Premature or inhibited ejaculation
    • Decreased libido or arousal difficulties
    • Orgasmic disorders
    • Psychological factors like anxiety, fear, or depression
    • Physical conditions including diabetes, cardiovascular issues, and hormonal imbalances

    Recent studies report that up to 52% of men aged 40–70 experience some form of ED. In women, sexual dysfunction is equally prevalent, although often less openly discussed. The ripple effect of these challenges often extends beyond the bedroom—affecting self-esteem, relationships, and emotional well-being.

    The Biochemistry of Erection: A Brief Primer

    Erections are complex physiological events involving:

    • Nitric Oxide (NO) release from parasympathetic nerves
    • Activation of cyclic GMP and cAMP pathways
    • Relaxation of corpus cavernosum smooth muscles
    • Enhanced blood flow and reduced calcium levels in penile tissue

    Impairment in any of these biochemical pathways, or in the associated neural, hormonal, or vascular systems, can result in ED. Medications like Viagra (sildenafil) work by supporting these pathways, yet they often come with side effects or contraindications — sparking renewed interest in natural alternatives.

    Nature’s Love Potions: Herbal Aphrodisiacs in Focus

    🌿 Chlorophytum borivilianum (Safed Musli)

    Renowned in Ayurvedic tradition, safed musli boosts libido, sperm count, and sexual vigor. Studies in rats show enhanced penile erection and increased testosterone-like effects.

    🌱 Mondia whitei

    Popular in African herbal traditions, this root increases sperm motility and sexual desire. Its effects may be linked to neurotransmitter modulation and androgen enhancement.

    🌾 Tribulus terrestris

    Used in both modern supplements and traditional medicine, it’s believed to stimulate libido and testosterone levels. Though some human studies show mixed results, animal trials confirm proerectile activity.

    💐 Crocus sativus (Saffron)

    Saffron’s bioactive compound crocin significantly improves sexual function in male rats, enhancing erection frequency and reducing ejaculation latency.

    🌰 Myristica fragrans (Nutmeg)

    Used in Unani medicine, nutmeg extract boosts sexual performance and mating frequency in animal studies, rivaling pharmaceutical interventions.

    🌴 Phoenix dactylifera (Date Palm)

    Traditionally used for male fertility, date palm pollen improves sperm quality, motility, and DNA integrity, with no adverse effects on reproductive tissues.

    🥬 Lepidium meyenii (Maca)

    A Peruvian root hailed for enhancing libido. While hormone levels remain unchanged, users report increased sexual desire after weeks of supplementation.

    🌿 Kaempferia parviflora

    Native to Southeast Asia, this plant increases testicular blood flow and improves sexual response — though its effects are more circulatory than hormonal.

    🌳 Eurycoma longifolia (Tongkat Ali)

    A staple in Southeast Asian folk medicine, this root significantly improves sexual reflexes, reduces hesitation, and stimulates androgenic activity in male rats.

    🍃 Satureja khuzestanica

    An Iranian herb with antioxidant properties that protect against reproductive toxicity, improve testosterone levels, and enhance fertility metrics.

    🍂 Panax ginseng

    A legendary aphrodisiac, ginseng works by enhancing nitric oxide synthesis, reducing oxidative stress, and improving erectile quality through vascular relaxation.

    🌲 Pausinystalia yohimbe

    Often called the “Herbal Viagra,” yohimbe increases blood flow to the genitals and boosts norepinephrine — essential for erections. It’s also used in treating orgasmic dysfunction and increasing sexual stamina.

    🌿 Fadogia agrestis

    This African herb increases testosterone and libido, significantly enhancing sexual behavior in lab studies.

    🌼 Montanoa tomentosa

    Traditionally used in Mexican medicine, this plant has both arousal-enhancing and pro-ejaculatory properties, acting directly on spinal centers responsible for orgasm.

    🌳 Terminalia catappa

    Known for increasing sexual vigor at moderate doses, but high doses may reduce performance, illustrating the importance of proper dosing.

    🧄 Casimiroa edulis

    Also called white sapote, it mimics sildenafil’s effects in animal studies, showing promise for improving libido and performance.

    Conclusion: The Sacred & Scientific Union of Desire

    While pharmaceutical options like Viagra offer short-term solutions, many individuals turn to nature for deeper, holistic support. The allure of aphrodisiac plants lies not only in their sexual promise but also in their historical, cultural, and spiritual significance. From the Andes to Arabia, roots, seeds, and flowers have helped generations reclaim their passion.

    Whether addressing physical dysfunction or seeking to enhance intimacy and connection, natural aphrodisiacs offer a gentler, time-honored approach to reigniting desire. But as with all medicine, consult a knowledgeable practitioner — not every herb is suitable for every body.

    Keywords: Aphrodisiac plants, Herbal remedies for ED, Natural libido boosters, Erectile dysfunction, Sacred sexuality, Ayurveda, Traditional medicine

  • 12 Embodied Inquires for Transforming Your Experience in Rope

    1. Why do we seek the experience of being tied?
    2. Where do our desires come from and how can we honor them?
    3. Where does our attention go when we are in Rope?
    4. What can we do to let our partners know how we feel, without speaking up?
    5. What are the ways we can use our breathing to create a better experience in Rope?
    6. What is the source of our resilience in Rope?
    7. Where are our limits and whose responsibility is it to recognize them?
    8. Why do we want to surrender and what allows us to do so?
    9. What makes us feel safe in rope?
    10. Which pains can we welcome and when do we decide to stop?
    11. Why rope can be a place to embrace all of our emotions, even the difficult ones?
    12. Which risks can we take, and where to stop exploring?

  • Magick?

    Magick is the integration of the conscious and unconscious mind.

    Magick is the art and science of causing change to occur in conformity with Will.

    Magick is intentionally making it happen. Using imagery, visualization, altered mental state to create multi-sensual representation of an as-yet-to-be-realized desire and the will, drive, and propose to see it fulfilled

  • signs of drop

    ✅ Difficulty concentrating

    ✅ Fatigue and decreased energy

    ✅ Feelings of guilt, and/or helplessness

    ✅ Feelings of pessimism

    ✅ Irritability, restlessness

    ✅ Overeating or appetite loss

    ✅ Persistent aches or pains

    ✅ Persistent sad, or anxious