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  • Hollow Smiles and A Velvet Thrones

    …breath that catches, through heat rising in the belly.

    This time, she came whispering about needs versus strategies.

    I didn’t recognize the difference at first. How easily we miss each other. like boats passing in the night. I’ve spent so long trying to survive that I blurred the line between the two. It’s subtle, but different strategies—like requests or desires—are about specifics. While needs? Needs are different. They’re universal truths we all carry.

    “Your needs are not too much. And they are not the same as the strategies you use to fulfill them.”

    For so long, I was confused.

    I’d say: _Call me, see me, don’t leave me, change for me._
    What I meant was: _I need connection. I need reassurance. I need to be seen._

    But I didn’t have the language. I only had the longing, the shame—and I’d end up analyzing or criticizing.
    “You’re selfish.”
    “You never listen.”

    I didn’t know I could just _name the need_.
    So vulnerable. So exposed.

    Not make someone responsible.
    Not demand a script.

    Just… that I have the right to say:
    _I need care._
    _I need respect._
    _I need room._

    Once I could name my needs, I became aware of my strategies—how I cope with the fear of my needs not being met.

    They are the most human part of me.

    When I lose sight of the truth, I trap myself. I stop seeing possibility.

    It all comes back to this: Be here, now, with what’s real. That’s the gift.

    I think about all the times .
    “I didn’t know how to ask for…”
    “I didn’t know how to say…”
    “I didn’t know how to take ‘no’ as anything other than proof I was unworthy.”

    It fucking sucks to learn this now—unseen, unspoken, unmet needs.

    To realize: I was simply trying to survive.

    That kind of shift—the one that doesn’t need to scream, that doesn’t collapse—it just _is_.

    To name what you feel.
    To honor what you need.
    To ask.

    And when I really get quiet and sit still, I feel it—that sense that our needs aren’t separate.

    We all just want to be whole.

  • Bound and Tethered Booklist

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    Rooted in the wisdom of Black scholars, rebels, and mystics

    • The Fire Next Time by _James Baldwin_
    • They Came Before Columbus: The African Presence in Ancient America by _Ivan Van Sertima_
    • The Destruction of Black Civilization by _Chancellor Williams_
    • The Mis-Education Of The Negro by _Carter G. Woodson_
    • We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity by _bell hooks_
    • Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? by _Beverly Daniel Tatum_
    • Hoodoo Herb & Root Magic by _Catherine Yronwode_
    • The Isis Papers: The Keys to the Colors by _Frances Cress Welsing_
    • Ain’t I a Woman: Black Women & Feminism by _bell hooks_
    • Fearing the Black Body by _Sabrina Strings_
    • Black Magic Woman & Narrative Film: Race, Sex & Afro-Religiosity by _Montré Aza Missouri_
    • Brainwashed: Challenging the Myth of Black Inferiority by _Tom Burrell_
    • Immigration and the Remaking of Black America by _Tod G. Hamilton, Douglas S. Massey_
    • The Color of Money: Black Banks and the Racial Wealth Gap by _Mehrsa Baradaran_
    • Black Power by _Kwame Ture (Stokely Carmichael) & Charles V. Hamilton_
    • Black Against Empire by _Joshua Bloom_
    • Changing School Culture for Black Males by _Jawanza Kunjufu_
    • Killing the Black Body by _Dorothy Roberts_
    • The Myth and Propaganda of Black Buying Power by _Jared A. Ball_

    Rope and BDSM Practice

    Books in this section ground the sacred, sensual for practitioners, ritualists, and those who wield intention.

    • Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes by _Two Knotty Boys_
    • Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes by _Two Knotty Boys & Marcus, Ken_
    • Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé by _Lee Harrington_
    • Essence of Shibari by _Shin Nawakari_
    • Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook by _Jay Wiseman_
    • The Toybag Guide To Foot And Shoe Worship by _Midori_
    • SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by _Jay Wiseman_
    • The New Topping Book by _Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy_
    • The New Bottoming Book by _Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy_
    • The Loving Dominant by _John Warren_
    • The Compleat Slave by _Jack Rinella_
    • Master-Slave Relations: Theory and Practice by _Robert J. Rubel_
    • SlaveCraft by _a grateful slave, Guy Baldwin, Joseph W. Bean_
    • Protocols Handbook for the Female Slave by _Robert J. Rubel_
    • Partners In Power: Living in Kinky Relationships by _Jack Rinella_
    • The Leatherman’s Protocol Handbook by _John Weal_
    • The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by _Lady Green_
    • 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by _Tristan Taormino_
    • The Ultimate Guide to Kink by _Tristan Taormino_
    • Thinking Kink: The Collision of BDSM, Feminism and Popular Culture by _Catherine Scott_
    • The Ritual of Dominance & Submission by _David English_
    • Training of a Slave by _Philippe De Coster_
    • Creating a Personal Protocol by _Shannon Reilly_
    • Extreme Space: The Domination and Submission Handbook by _FRR Mallory_
    • Discipline: Adding Rules & Discipline to Your BDSM Relationship by _Lily Lloyd_
    • How to Be Kinky: A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM by _Morpheous_
    • Becoming a Slave by _Jack Rinella_
    • Dom’s Guide to Submissive Training (Volumes 1 & 2) by _Elizabeth Cramer_
    • BDSM Playbook: Beginner’s Guide by _Melissa Beach_
    • Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus by _Christina Abernathy_
    • Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission by _Claudia Varrin_
    • The Dominant Wife Handbook by _Mistress Jessica_
    • Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know by _Elizabeth Cramer_

    🔸 Erotic Power & Sacred Sexuality

    These books explore sexuality as worship and devotion—blending eros, mythos, and power .

    • Sacred Pleasure: Sex, Myth, and the Politics of the Body by _Riane Eisler_
    • Beyond Tantra: Healing Through Taoist Sacred Sex by _Mieke Wik & Stephan Wik_
    • Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by _Barbara Carrellas_
    • Radical Ecstasy by _Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy_
    • The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by _Jack Morin_
    • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by _Esther Perel_
    • The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by _Charlie Glickman_
    • The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by _Lady Green_
    • Mind Play: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by _Mark Wiseman_
    • Pillow Talk: A Comprehensive Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by _Michael Scott_
    • The Mammoth Book of Erotic Romance and Domination by _Maxim Jakubowski_
    • The Hesitant Mistress by _Dvanna Hightower_
    • Techniques of Pleasure: BDSM and the Circuits of Sexuality by _Margot Weiss_
    • Pleasure Activism by _adrienne maree brown_
    • Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation by _Princess Kali_
    • Erotic Massage for Healing and Pleasure by _K. A. T. Smith_
    • Sex Tips from a Dominatrix by _Patricia Payne_
    • Sex Power and Pleasure by _Mariana Valverde_
    • Sex Magick: The Best of The Equinox Volume III by _Aleister Crowley_
    • Ecstasy Through Tantra by _Jonn Mumford_
    • The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms & Female Ejaculation by _Tristan Taormino_
    • The Mind Whisperer – Erotic Hypnosis by _Shane Hill_
    • HypnoDomme: Forbidden Erotic Hypnosis Secrets Revealed by _Kali DuBois_
    • The Economics of Ecstasy: Tantra, Secrecy, and Power in Colonial Bengal by _Hugh B. Urban_
    • The Power of Tantra by _Hugh B. Urban_
    • The Encyclopedia of Sacred Sexuality by _Rufus C. Camphausen_
    • Exploring Black Sexuality by _Robert Staples_
    • Screening the Marquis de Sade: Pleasure, Pain and the Transgressive Body in Film by _Lindsay Anne Hallam_
    • The Multi-Orgasmic Couple by _Mantak & Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams_
    • Secrets of Western Tantra by _Christopher S. Hyatt, Lon Milo DuQuette, Israel Regardie_

    Spirituality, Mysticism & Ritual

    Mystical, esoteric, and magical. These books are spiritual, ritual, and sacred alignment.

    • Sexual Magic by _Paschal Beverly Randolph_
    • Maat: The Ultimate Guide to Maat Philosophy, Principles, and Magick by _Mari Silva_
    • Of Water and the Spirit by _Malidoma Patrice Somé_
    • Taboo: Sex, Religion & Magick by _Christopher S. Hyatt & Lon Milo DuQuette_
    • Sensuous Magic: A Guide to SM by _Patrick Califia_
    • Female Dominance Rituals and Practices by _Claudia Varrin_
    • The Red Goddess by _Peter Grey_
    • Ritual Magic Workbook by _Dolores Ashcroft-Nowicki_
    • Drawing Down the Spirits by _Kenaz Filan_
    • The New Orleans Voodoo Handbook by _Kenaz Filan_
    • Vodou Love Magic by _Kenaz Filan_
    • Talking to the Spirits by _Kenaz Filan_
    • Neolithic Shamanism: Spirit Work in the Norse Tradition by _Raven Kaldera & Galina Krasskova_
    • Moon Spells by _Diane Ahlquist_
    • Everyday Moon Magic by _Dorothy Morrison_
    • Moon Magic by _Dion Fortune_
    • Make Magic of Your Life by _T. Thorn Coyle_
    • Evolutionary Witchcraft by _T. Thorn Coyle_
    • The Magick of Thelema by _Lon Milo DuQuette_
    • Magick in Theory and Practice by _Aleister Crowley_
    • Golden Dawn Enochian Magic by _Pat Zalewski_
    • Psychedelics and Spirituality by _Thomas B. Roberts_
    • Spirit of Desire by _Lee Harrington_
    • Grimoire for the Green Witch by _Ann Moura_
    • Practical Magic for Beginners by _Brandy Williams_
    • Cord Magic by _Brandy Williams_
    • Qabbalistic Magic by _Salomo Baal-Shem_
    • Planetary Spells & Rituals by _Raven Digitalis_
    • Pagan Astrology by _Raven Kaldera_
    • Angel Tech: A Modern Shaman’s Guide to Reality Selection by _Antero Alli_
    • Divining Ecstasy: The Mystical Essence of Salvia Divinorum by _Sean Shayan_
    • The Enochian Magick of Dr. John Dee by _Geoffrey James_
    • Sexual Alchemy: Magical Intercourse with Spirits by _Anonymous (Alchemy Journal)_
    • Yoga Mind, Body & Spirit by _Donna Farhi_
    • Spiritual Disciplines (Bollingen Series) by _Joseph Campbell & Rudolf Bernoulli_
    • Secrets of Western Tantra by _Christopher S. Hyatt & others_
    • Igniting Intimacy by _Rowan Bombadil_

    🔸 Somatic Healing & Psychology

    This section connects the body, trauma, and spirit—offeringsomatic awareness, nervous system healing, and emotional integration.

    • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by _Bessel van der Kolk, MD_
    • In an Unspoken Voice by _Peter A. Levine_
    • Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by _Peter A. Levine_
    • Freedom From Pain by _Peter A. Levine_
    • Trauma and Memory by _Peter A. Levine & Bessel A. van der Kolk_
    • Healing the Traumatized Self by _Paul Frewen_
    • Eastern Body, Western Mind by _Anodea Judith_
    • Sacred Pain: Hurting the Body for the Sake of the Soul by _Ariel Glucklich_
    • The Art of Somatic Coaching by _Richard Strozzi-Heckler_
    • Triggers: How We Can Stop Reacting and Start Healing by _David Richo_
    • Activate the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve by _Eric Hermann_
    • Attached by _Amir Levine & Rachel Heller_
    • Getting Past the Pain Between Us by _Marshall B. Rosenberg_
    • Measuring Ego Development by _Jane Loevinger & Lê Xuân Hy_
    • The Politics of Trauma by _Staci K. Haines_
    • Healing Your Inner Child and Yourself For Life by _Veronica Bond_
    • The Psychology of Personal Constructs (Vols 1 & 2) by _George A. Kelly_
    • Martin Buber on Psychology and Psychotherapy by _Martin Buber & Judith Buber Agassi_
    • The Discovery of Being: Writings in Existential Psychology by _Rollo May_
    • The Psychology of B.F. Skinner by _William T. O’Donohue & Kyle E. Ferguson_
    • Psychology from the Standpoint of a Behaviorist by _John B. Watson_
    • The Body in Pain: The Making and Unmaking of the World by _Elaine Scarry_
    • Tortured Subjects: Pain, Truth and the Body in Early Modern France by _Lisa Silverman_
    • The Eight-Circuit Brain by _Antero Alli_
    • The Psychology of Self-Hatred and Self-Defeat by _Amos N. Wilson_
    • Beyond the Known: Realization by _Paul Selig_
    • Buddhist I Ching by _Thomas Cleary (Translator)_
    • Richard Wilhelm by _The Secret of the Golden Flower: A Chinese Book of Life_

    🔸 Power, Relationships & Communication

    Wisdom for lovers, vessels and partners. These books refine your communication, deepen consent, and center ethical relating.

    • Radical Acceptance: Awakening the Love that Heals Fear and Shame by _Tara Brach_
    • The Ethical Slut by _Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy_
    • Polysecure by _Jessica Fern_
    • To Love To Obey To Serve by _V.M. Johnson_
    • A Woman’s Guide to a Female-Led Relationship by _Victoria West_
    • The Good Wife’s Guide to Taking Charge by _Rebecca Lawson_
    • She Wants a Loving Female Led Relationship by _Te-Erika Patterson_
    • How to Love a Powerful Woman by _Te-Erika Patterson_
    • A Keyholder’s Diary by _Esther Park_
    • Finding Love Through Female Domination by _Renee Lane_
    • At Her Feet: Powering Your Femdom Relationship by _TammyJo Eckhart_
    • She’s In Control by _MsNN_
    • The Mastery of Love by _Don Miguel Ruiz_
    • Love’s Not Color Blind by _Kevin A. Patterson_
    • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by _Marshall B. Rosenberg_
    • Getting Past the Pain Between Us by _Marshall B. Rosenberg_
    • Daring to Trust by _David Richo_
    • How to Be an Adult in Relationships by _David Richo_
    • Creating Love by _John Bradshaw_
    • Unconditional Love: Love Without Limits by _John Joseph Powell_
    • The Secret of Staying in Love by _John Joseph Powell_
    • Freedom of Mind by _Steven Hassan_
    • Love & Will by _Rollo May_
    • The Lives of Erich Fromm: Love’s Prophet by _Lawrence J. Friedman_
    • Path to Love by _Deepak Chopra_
    • A Politics of Love by _Marianne Williamson_
    • A Return to Love by _Marianne Williamson_
    • Eros and the Mysteries of Love by _Julius Evola_
    • Transcendent Sex: When Lovemaking Opens the Veil by _Jenny Wade & Ken Wilber_
    • Geek Love by _Katherine Dunn_
    • The Polyvagal Theory by _Stephen W. Porges_
    • Chop Wood Carry Water by _Joshua Medcalf_
    • This Nonviolent Stuff’ll Get You Killed by _Charles E. Cobb Jr._

    🔸 Outer Circle

    These are books at the edge—less explicit in eroticism or ritual, yet still deeply resonant.

    • Igniting Intimacy by _Rowan Bombadil_
    • Richard Wilhelm by _The Secret of the Golden Flower: A Chinese Book of Life_
    • Paulo Freire, Myra Bergman Ramos, Donaldo Macedo by _Pedagogy of the Oppressed_
    • Beyond the Known: Realization (The Beyond the Known Trilogy) by _Paul Selig_
    • Buddhist I Ching by _Thomas Cleary (Translator)_
    • The Doors of Perception by _Aldous Huxley_
    • A CHARM SCHOOL FOR SISSY MAIDS by _Lorelei_
    • Worshipping Your Wife by _Mark Remond_
    • Why Women Should Rule The World by _William Bond_
    • Where I Am Led by _Christina Parker_
    • Venus On Top by _Barbara Abernathy_
    • Uniquely Rika by _Ms. Rika_
    • Tips and Tricks For KeyHolders by _Georgia Ivey Green_
    • The Truth About Sex: A Sex Primer for the 21st Century by _Gloria G. Brame_
    • The Surrendered Wife by _Laura Doyle_
    • The New Bride’s Guide to Training Her Husband by _Emily & Ken Addison_
    • The Forked Tongue Revisited: A Handbook for Treating People Badly by _Flagg_
    • The FemDom Experience by _Elise Sutton_
    • Akasha’s Web: Good Girl’s Guide To Domination by _AkashaWeb.com_
    • The Curious Human Phenomenon by _Peter Masters_
    • The Control Book by _Peter Masters_
    • The Adult Spanking and Discipline Handbook by _Gemma Forbes_
    • The Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women by _Claudia Varrin_
    • Taking Back Your Marriage by _Georgia Ivey Green_
    • Sexual Power for Women by _Georgeann Cross_
    • Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by _Phillip Miller & Molly Devon_
    • Safe Sane And Consensual by _Unknown_
    • RESTART INTIMACY by _Sierra Parker_
    • Real Service by _Joshua Tenpenny & Raven Kaldera_
    • Playing Well with Others by _Lee Harrington_
    • Paradigms Of Power by _Raven Kaldera_
    • Male Chastity – A Guide for Key Holders by _Lucy Fairborne_
    • Look Into My Eyes by _Peter Masters_
    • Lessons In Service From Charlie Trotter by _Unknown_
    • Leathersex by _Joseph Bean_
    • Leather And Latex Care by _Thibault_
    • Imaginative Sex by _John Norman_
    • How to Get Your Wife to Cuckold You by _Lionel Maximilien_
    • Health Care Without Shame by _Charles Moser_
    • Welcome to the list by _David_
    • Flogging by _Joseph W. Bean_
    • Discipline and Punish: The Birth of the Prison by _Michel Foucault_
    • Finding Your Domme by _Sydney & Logan Hart_
    • FemDom Training of Submissive Males by _Vanessa Chaland_
    • FemDom And Brainwashing Techniques by _William Bond_
    • How To Set Up An FLR by _Georgia Ivey Green_
    • Sissy Maid 101 by _Constance Pennington Smythe_
    • Female Domination by _Elise Sutton_
    • Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment by _Hardy Haberman_
    • Endless Knot by _Mathew Styranka_
    • Electro Stim Safety by _Lady Robin_
    • Domestic Discipline by _Jules Markham_
    • Dining With Humpty Dumpty by _Unknown_
    • Different Loving by _Gloria G. Brame_
    • Diary of an S&M Romance by _Dollie Llama_
    • Diary of a Submissive by _Sophie Morgan_
    • Devil In The Details I, II, III by _L.T. Morrison_
    • Control Your Submissive Boy by _Lockhart_
    • Consensual Spanking by _Jules Markham_
  • Why I Go By CraigJustCraig

    Names hold power. They carry energy, intention, and stories. But names can also become cages—defining who you are before you’ve even had the chance to grow into who you’re meant to be. That’s why I chose to be CraigJustCraig.

    It’s not just a name; it’s a mantra. A reminder.

    By being CraigJustCraig, I strip away the temptation to self-anoint with grand titles or assumed roles. It’s not Sir Craig, Master Craig, or Rope Guru Craig—it’s just Craig. Titles carry weight, and they often push dynamics before they’ve had the chance to naturally form. I don’t want to be anything to anyone that hasn’t been earned, that hasn’t been felt.

    When I connect with someone, I want them to experience me authentically, without assumptions or expectations. To some, I might become more. To someone else, maybe nothing more than Craig. And that’s okay. Names are reflections of connection, and I trust the names others give me more than the ones I give myself.

    CraigJustCraig is my way of resisting the urge to impose predetermined expectations or obligations. I leave the canvas blank, allowing us to co-create our connection rather than dictating what it must look like.

    For me, this practice is grounding. It keeps me present and attuned to the energy between people. CraigJustCraig reminds me to listen, to observe, and to honor what is rather than forcing what should be.

    CraigJustCraig is an invitation—to see me as I am and to feel free to find your own truth in how we relate.

    I’m just Craig. And to me, that’s enough.

  • The Sacred Art of Rope

    Last night with new friends, I was reminded of the magic rope brings to connection. One of them turned to me, excitedly sharing how I inspired them to explore something new with rope. They spoke of using rope as a flogger, then as a whip, then as a paddle their smile widening with every word. As they talked, their focus shifted to each other.

    He started to wrap the rope gently around her legs, no knots, just the sensation of the coarse rope gliding across her skin. He knelt to kiss her, his hands exploring her softly, their energy charged with shared understanding. Only then did he glance back at me, his grin as wide as it could be.

    I smiled and said, “Sometimes, rope is all you need.” She leaned closer, snuggled into the rope draped over her, her smile growing as she did. Others in the room, captivated by the moment, murmured, “I need to get some rope.”

    This is the magic of rope:
    • The magic of connection, where the act of tying becomes an unspoken language.
    • The magic of vulnerability, where surrender meets trust.
    • The magic of shared passion, where every knot, touch, and glance deepens intimacy.
    • The magic of surrender, where both body and mind are present, held, and free.

    Rope is inherently sensual. It teases, binds, and frees—evoking the rhythms of eroticism, the mindfulness of touch, and the beauty of shared vulnerability. Rope amplifies the connection between power and surrender, merging trust and intention in every knot and gesture.

    For those open to integrating tantra, mindfulness, and ritual into their rope journey, this magic deepens further. Rope becomes a path for those who wish to feel, connect, and grow through tying, using the erotic and the sensual as spiritual resources—rooted in unexpressed feeling and profound self-discovery.

    This journey is not for individuals seeking rope solely as a means of sexual gratification or pornographic performance. It’s for those who wish to explore the sacred, mindful act of tying as an avenue for connection, vulnerability, and growth.

    From the physical sensations of rope gliding and tightening to the rhythm of mindful breath, the act of tying transforms into a spiritual journey, activating the parasympathetic nervous system and tapping into the unspoken depths of human emotion. It releases endorphins, oxytocin, and adrenaline, allowing participants to feel, surrender, and emerge renewed.

    This is the beauty of rope: a ritual, a meditation, and a connection unlike any other.

  • The Cost of Being “Good”

    Depression stems from not getting what we truly want. And why don’t we get what we want? Because we were never taught how. Instead, we were conditioned to be good But if being “good” means constantly sacrificing our desires, then depression becomes the reward for our obedience.

    Pleasure is power. Indulgence is devotion. Growth demands breaking free from illusions and reclaiming the real you. This is not a place for those bound by societal chains. If you want to feel whole, start by asking: What do you want? Not what you think you should want, not what keeps others comfortable, but what you deeply desire. Name it. Claim it. Step into your power. start moving toward it. And that’s where the real shift begins.

  • Foundational Knots in Rope Practice

    In the world of rope practice, mastering the foundational knots is essential. While there are many knots to explore, these three are the ones you will encounter repeatedly. Learning them will build a strong foundation for your journey into rope work.

    Overhand Knot

    Thumb Knot, Single Knot, Simple Twist (I even read once: “Pretzel Knot”), Over-and-Under Knot, Regular Knot (same aka as the Square Knot!), Fist Knot, and—when tied with two ends—Half Knot.

    The Overhand Knot is one of the simplest and most fundamental knots. It is a Half Hitch tied around its own running part rather than an object. This knot is widely used as a stopper knot or as a building block for more complex knots.

    The Square Knot

    Aka: Reef Knot, True Knot, Hard Knot, Sailor’s Knot, String Tie Knot, Common Knot, Regular Knot, Ordinary Knot, Flat Knot,

    Tied with the pattern “Left over Right, Right over Left,” the Square Knot is a widely used binding knot. It is more secure than the Granny Knot and holds well under tension, making it a preferred choice for joining two ends of a rope together. However, it should not be used for heavy loads or life-safety applications.

    The Granny Knot

    Aka: False Knot, Lubber’s Knot, Calf Knot, Booby Knot, Garden Knot, Granary Knot.

    The Granny Knot is similar to the Square Knot but is less secure and more prone to slipping. It is tied with a “Left over Right, Left over Right” pattern, which results in a twisted and uneven structure. Due to its tendency to come undone under tension, it is not recommended for securing weight-bearing loads.

    Summerville Bowline

    AKA Carrick Bend, coin knot, sailor knot, Portuguese-style bowline , French style bowline and big sheet bend

    In 2010, the American bakushi Topologist modified the Portuguese-style bowline and the French style bowline to explain the tie in this section. It became named the Somerville bowline. Later, Wykd Dave and others discovered that the knot was in fact the Carrick bend,

    Final Thoughts

    These foundational knots form the backbone of rope practice, appearing in countless ties and applications. Whether you’re practicing decorative, functional, or suspension-based rope work, mastering these knots will set you on the right path. Take the time to learn them well, as they will serve as the building blocks for more advanced techniques.

  • Knots and Rope Magic

    A sailor looks up at the linen cloth hanging flat in the rigging. Still no wind. Three days becalmed, and the rations are running low. He pulls out a thin rope tied with elaborate knots. There is nothing else to do now. He needs help. Blowing on the rope to wake it, he solemnly unties the knot. “Blow, wind, blow!” The whisper is both an invocation and a prayer.

    A dark-haired woman sits cross-legged by the fire. The circle of watchers lean in, expectant. With roving in one hand, she twirls the spindle, drawing out the wool into thin threads. As she spins, she hums an incantation—a blessing for warmth, for protection, for the unseen forces to hear.

    The dry stalks rattle in the summer heat. A Neanderthal woman crushes flax between her palms, pulling the fibers free. She twists them together, forming a rope, stronger with every turn. It must bear the weight of the holed stone she found—an amulet of power, of protection. She is so focused that she does not at first notice the human woman watching in silence. The human offers her own gathered flax. A gift. A sign. Magic recognizes magic.

    Knots of Power

    Binding and loosing. The art of the knot is an old magic, older than words, older than fire. Knots are tied for power, for love, for protection. To hold. To release. To control. There are three ways a knot works its will:

    • A knot is a wish made manifest.
    • A knot is a cage, capturing energy.
    • A knot is a timekeeper, storing power until the moment of release.

    The Mysticism of Rope

    Rope is primal. The first cord that binds us is the umbilical cord, our tether to life itself. Rope magic appears in every faith, every culture, every whispered tradition of the old world and the hidden world.

    • Red Kabbalah String: Wound around Rachel’s tomb for protection.
    • Genesis 38: Red thread marking the firstborn of Judah.
    • Christian Traditions: Red threads tied to babies for blessings.
    • Jewish Tallit: Blue tzitzit, a reminder of the divine.
    • Hindu Kalava: Red and gold thread, bound in sacred ritual.
    • Buddhist Threads: Used in blessings, weddings, deaths—tying spirits together and apart.
    • Shimenawa: Sacred ropes that mark where spirits dwell, binding them to this world.
    • Initiation and Lineage Cords: Marking rank, sealing oaths, binding destinies.
    • Handfasting: The old wedding rite, tying two souls as one.

    A rope can bless. A rope can curse.

    The Ritual of the Knot

    A knot is a paradox—both a source of strength and a point of weakness. A curve within a curve, a loop of captured will, it must be shaped with intent, tightened with purpose.

    Knots are taught through repetition, repetition, repetition. Learn them in darkness, learn them in silence. Tie them blindfolded, one hand bound. Take them apart, unravel their secrets. Study their patterns, their traps, their whispers. A knot, once tied, is an oath.

    To work the magic of the knot, do this:

    • Hold the rope in your hands. Feel its history, its breath, its pulse.
    • Speak your will into the rope, let the words soak into the fibers.
    • Tie the knot with purpose, whispering as you do:
      • “This knot holds my will.”
      • “This knot binds this fate.”
      • “This knot shall not break until I command it.”

    And when the time comes—when the spell is ripe, when the moment is now—untie the knot, slowly, deliberately.

    Release.

    The wind will blow. The fire will rise. The threads of fate will shift once more.

  • Foundation Cohort:

    Foundation Cohort: Completion Overview

    By the end of this Foundation Cohort, you will have gained the critical knowledge and skills to approach rope with safety, intention, and awareness. Rope is dangerous—hard stop. Accidents will happen. However, safety isn’t about avoiding risk entirely; it’s about reducing harm, managing potential dangers, and knowing how to respond in case of an emergency. Through this cohort, you will understand the importance of risk management, preventative measures, and how to create a safe and supportive environment for everyone involved.

    You will also have learned the essential and basic ground rope techniques, laying the foundation for more advanced practices. This includes knots, ties, safety protocols, and foundational rope knowledge.

    Most importantly, you will begin to cultivate the mindset of intentional focus, mindfulness, presence, and awareness. These are the keys to creating meaningful and connected rope experiences and will prepare you for the next stage in your journey: the Core Cohort, where we will dive deeper into advanced techniques and expand your skills and knowledge.

    Safety, technique, and mindfulness are the cornerstones of this journey. You’re now ready to move forward with confidence and a strong foundation for the path ahead.


    Foundation Cohort: Week 1 – Consent, Negotiations & Class Overview

    In Week 1, we laid the groundwork for a responsible and respectful rope practice by diving into the essential principles of consent, negotiation, and vetting. These foundational concepts are the key to building trust and communication, ensuring that all participants feel safe and heard. We also provided an overview of the class structure, goals, and expectations, setting the tone for a thoughtful and supportive learning environment.

    • 🔹 Key Topics Covered:
    • ✅ Consent: Understanding and respecting boundaries before, during, and after a scene
    • ✅ Negotiations: How to communicate desires, limits, and needs effectively
    • ✅ Vetting: The importance of building trust and ensuring safety through careful screening
    • ✅ Class Overview: Expectations, structure, and goals for the Foundation Cohort

    This session was about creating a strong foundation of communication, ensuring that all participants feel empowered and supported throughout their journey. Setting the right tone for respectful negotiations and establishing clear consent boundaries is key to fostering a positive and safe learning space. 🪢✨


    Foundation Cohort: Week 2 – Safety, Risk Management & Preventative Measures

    In Week 2, we focused on the essential elements of safety and risk management that underpin all rope work. These principles ensure that every tie is performed with awareness, care, and a clear understanding of the potential risks involved. We emphasized the importance of preventative measures and proactive preparation to create a safe and responsible environment for both rope tops and bottoms.

    • 🔹 Key Topics Covered:
    • ✅ Safety Protocols: Identifying and mitigating risks before they arise
    • ✅ Risk Management: Understanding risk factors and establishing boundaries
    • ✅ Incident Protocol: Knowing how to handle unexpected situations calmly and effectively
    • ✅ Preventative Measures: Creating a safe space by planning and preparing for all outcomes
    • ✅ Anatomy & Risk Awareness: Recognizing the body’s limits and understanding how to prevent injury

    This week was all about building a solid foundation of awareness, safety, and responsibility. Understanding how to prevent accidents, manage risks, and respond to incidents ensures that we approach rope with respect for our own bodies and for each other. 🪢✨


    Foundation Cohort: Week 3 – Review & Test: Negotiations, Safety, and Risk Management

    In Week 3, we focused on reinforcing and testing the critical aspects of safety, consent, and risk management that lay the foundation for responsible and intentional rope practice. These principles are essential to ensuring that all ties are not only physically secure but emotionally and psychologically safe for all involved. This week, we reviewed the core concepts and evaluated our understanding of negotiation, safety protocols, and incident management.

    • 🔹 Key Topics Covered:
    • ✅ Negotiations: Setting clear intentions, boundaries, and expectations
    • ✅ Foundation Needs: Assessing individual and partner needs before tying
    • ✅ Vetting: Understanding the importance of trust and screening in rope play
    • ✅ Consent & Risk Management: Communicating and respecting consent at every stage
    • ✅ Incident Protocol: What to do in case of an emergency or unexpected event
    • ✅ Preventative Measures: Creating a safe environment for all involved
    • ✅ Anatomy & Risk Awareness: Understanding the body’s limits and avoiding injury

    By reviewing these critical concepts, we solidified our understanding of how to approach rope with mindfulness, care, and preparation. Week 3 was about ensuring everyone feels safe and respected, both physically and emotionally, setting the stage for a positive, responsible practice. 🪢✨


    Foundation Cohort: Week 4 – Knots: The Ancient Magick We Know ✨

    This week, we explore the profound and ancient art of knots, one of the most powerful and symbolic practices across cultures. Knots have held significance for centuries, embodying connection, protection, and intention. From the red strings of Kabbalah to the sai sin of Thai monks and the shimenawa in Shinto shrines, knots have been used to manifest, store energy, and seal intentions.

    A knot is a symbol of energy, woven into the fabric of ritual and everyday life, fragile yet mighty in its hold. This week, we’ll dive into the technique and essence of tying knots with mindfulness and purpose, honoring their deep roots in history and magic.

    • 🔹 This week’s focus:
    • ✅ Overhand Knot
    • ✅ Square Knot
    • ✅ Lark’s Head
    • ✅ Somerville Bowline
    • ✅ Single Columns
    • ✅ Tension, Stick/Pulling, Dressing, Throwing

    Join us as we connect with the energy and intention behind each knot, shaping and tightening them with care to create the magic we seek. 🪢✨


    Foundation Cohort: Week 5 – Knots & Friction Review

    This week, we’re taking a step back to review and refine everything we’ve learned so far in our study of knots and friction. This session will focus on reinforcing technique, improving efficiency, and troubleshooting any challenges. Whether you need to polish your execution or gain a deeper understanding of these foundational elements, this review will help solidify your skills.

    • 🔹 Reviewing:
    • 🔗 Reverse Tension & Direction Change
    • 🔗 Munter Hitch & Reverse Munter Hitch
    • 🔗 X-Friction & Variants
    • 🔗 Half-Moon / Square Lashing
    • 🔗 L-Friction & Half Hitch
    • 🔗 Trapped Bight Lock-Off & Hojo Cuffs
    • 🔗 Overhand & Square Knot
    • 🔗 Lark’s Head & Half Hitch
    • 🔗 Somerville Bowline & Yuki Fix
    • 🔗 Boola Boola
    • 🔗 Tension, Stick/Pulling, Dressing, & Throwing

    Come with questions, tie with intention, and let’s refine our craft together! 🪢✨


    Foundation Cohort: Week 6 – Chest Harnesses & Upper Body Ties

    This week, we’re diving into chest harnesses and upper body ties, exploring their structure, function, and versatility. A well-executed harness provides support, control, and aesthetic appeal, making it a fundamental skill in rope practice. We’ll focus on essential techniques to ensure secure and comfortable ties while maintaining intentional tension and structure.

    • 🔹 This week’s focus:
    • ✅ Structural principles of chest harnesses
    • ✅ Balancing tension, function, and comfort
    • ✅ Functional vs. decorative applications
    • ✅ Troubleshooting fit and placement
    • ✅ Hands-on practice and refinement
    • 🔹 Ties Covered:
    • 🔗 Basic Tengu / Chicken Wing / Dinosaur Arms Tie
    • 🔗 Basic Bunny Ears / Arms Behind Head Tie
    • 🔗 Basic Armbinder / Strappado
    • 🔗 Fisherman Harness

    Come ready to tie, explore, and refine your upper body techniques! 🪢✨


    Foundation Cohort: Week 7 – Hip Harnesses & Lower Body Ties

    This week, we’re focusing on hip harnesses and lower body ties, essential for stability, mobility, and versatility in rope work. Whether for suspension, floor play, or aesthetics, a well-constructed hip harness provides support and control while allowing for creativity and movement. We’ll explore fundamental techniques to enhance both function and comfort.

    • 🔹 This week’s focus:
    • ✅ Structural principles of hip harnesses
    • ✅ Balancing tension, comfort, and function
    • ✅ Weight distribution and mobility considerations
    • ✅ Troubleshooting fit and placement
    • ✅ Hands-on practice and refinement
    • 🔹 Ties Covered:
    • 🔗 Basic Bent Leg Tie / Futomomo
    • 🔗 Basic Calf Binder / Leg Ladder
    • 🔗 Basic Crossed Leg Tie / Agura
    • 🔗 Basic Legs Open / Moon Tie
    • 🔗 Wide-Front Hip Harness

    Come ready to tie, refine, and expand your lower body rope techniques! 🪢✨


    Foundation Cohort: Week 8 – Upper & Lower Body Ties Review

    This week, we’re revisiting chest harnesses, hip harnesses, and lower body ties to refine technique, troubleshoot challenges, and deepen our understanding of structure and function. This review session is designed to reinforce key concepts, improve efficiency, and ensure comfort and stability in your ties.

    • 🔹 Reviewing:
    • ✅ Structural principles of upper and lower body ties
    • ✅ Balancing tension, function, and comfort
    • ✅ Troubleshooting fit, placement, and common issues
    • ✅ Hands-on refinement and skill-building
    • 🔹 Ties Covered:
    • 🔗 Chest Harnesses & Upper Body Ties
    • 🔗 Basic Tengu / Chicken Wing / Dinosaur Arms Tie
    • 🔗 Basic Bunny Ears / Arms Behind Head Tie
    • 🔗 Basic Armbinder / Strappado
    • 🔗 Fisherman Harness
    • 🔗 Hip Harnesses & Lower Body Ties
    • 🔗 Basic Bent Leg Tie / Futomomo
    • 🔗 Basic Calf Binder / Leg Ladder
    • 🔗 Basic Crossed Leg Tie / Agura
    • 🔗 Basic Legs Open / Moon Tie
    • 🔗 Wide-Front Hip Harness

    Bring your questions, refine your technique, and solidify your skills as we revisit these essential ties! 🪢✨


    Foundation Cohort: Week 9 – Presence & Focus in Rope

    This week, we shift our attention beyond technique to the deeper elements of rope: presence, focus, and connection. Rope isn’t just about tying—it’s about the energy, awareness, and intentionality we bring to every interaction. Developing presence enhances both the experience and the quality of our ties, creating deeper engagement between rope tops and bottoms.

    • 🔹 This week’s focus:
    • ✅ Cultivating mindfulness and intention in rope
    • ✅ Deepening connection through breath, eye contact, and touch
    • ✅ Enhancing focus and flow in tying
    • ✅ Reading and responding to your partner’s body language
    • ✅ Exercises to build awareness, patience, and emotional engagement

    This session is about slowing down, refining intention, and immersing ourselves fully in the moment. Come ready to explore the art of presence in rope! 🪢✨


    Foundation Cohort: Week 10 – Intent Shapes the Flow, Skill Carves the Path

    This week marks the final week of our first Foundation Cohort, and we’ll bring together everything we’ve learned to focus on the fusion of intent and skill. Intent shapes the flow of the rope, guiding every tie with purpose and clarity, while skill carves the path, ensuring that each knot, harness, and bind is executed with precision and care. This session will tie together technique, presence, and connection as we celebrate your growth and mastery of the fundamentals.

    • 🔹 This week’s focus:
    • ✅ Harnessing the power of intent in every tie
    • ✅ Refining technique and muscle memory
    • ✅ Fostering a deeper connection with your rope partner
    • ✅ Bringing flow and purpose to your practice
    • ✅ Final hands-on practice and integration of skills

    As we close out the first cohort, let’s reflect on our journey, celebrate our progress, and solidify our foundation for the path ahead. Come ready to tie with focus, intention, and mastery! 🪢✨

  • You Will Leave Foundations With:

    Foundations is more than just a starting point—it’s your gateway to a safe, skillful, and mindful practice of rope. As you embark on this path, you’ll leave equipped with three key pillars to elevate your practice. Here’s what you’ll take away:

    Safety First: Techniques to Reduce Harm and Manage Risk

    Safety is the cornerstone of any rope practice. In Foundations, we prioritize understanding how to minimize risks for both tops and bottoms.

    Rope is dangerous, hard stop. Accidents will happen, but safety isn’t about avoiding them—it’s about reducing harm and managing risk

    Anatomical Awareness: Identifying nerve zones and understanding circulation to avoid injury.

    Communication Tools: How to check in with your partner before, during, and after a scene.

    Emergency Preparedness: The importance of having safety shears on hand and recognizing when to untie versus cut the rope.

    Basic Techniques: Confidently Tackle Ground Rope

    Foundations is designed to give you practical, hands-on skills that form the backbone of your rope journey. By the end of the class, you’ll have the ability to:

    • Basic Knots and Frictions
    • Essential Rope and Body Handling Tecniques
    • Build on these basics to create versatile harnesses, one knot at a time.

    Mindset: Approaching Practice Mindfully and Intentionally

    In Foundations, we encourage a mindful approach by fostering:

    Presence: Cultivate focus and attentiveness to your partner’s needs and responses.

    Mindfulness: It’s not just about creating patterns or achieving immobility. It’s about presence, purpose, and the energy between you and the rope

    Intentionality: approaching every action with care and thoughtfulness.

  • Foundation Cohort: Essential knots and Basic Tying Techniques

    • Overhand
    • Square Knot
    • Larks Head
    • Half Hitch
    • Somerville Bowline
    • Yuki Fix
    • Boola Boola
    • Tension
    • Stick/Pulling
    • Dressing
    • Throwing
    Column ties
    Square knot single column
    Somerville bowline single column
    Larkshead style single column
    Quick single column / jackfruit / hojo-style
    Inline single column / hojo-cuff
    Square knot double column
    Somerville bowline double column
    Larkshead style double column
    Frictions
    Reverse tension
    Direction change
    Munter hitch
    Reverse munter hitch
    X-friction
    X-friction varients
    Half-moon / square lashing
    L-friction
    Half hitch
    Trapped bight lock-off
    Hojo Cuffs
    Basic arms forward tie
    Basic tengu / chicken wing / dinosaur arms tie
    Basic bunny ears / arms behind head tie
    Basic armbinder / strappado
    Basic bent leg tie / futomomo
    Basic calf binder / leg ladder
    Basic crossed leg tie / agura
    Basic legs open / moon tie
    – Fisherman Harness
    Wide-Front Hip Harness
    One Rope Play (Ichinawa)
    Rope and body handling
    Managing tension
    Pull throughs
    Joining rope
    Rope storage