It reminds me of the story of a woman who lived in a world of black and white but dedicated her life to studying color. She learned everything there was to know—wavelengths, perception, theory—but only after mastering the knowledge was she finally allowed to experience color for the first time. And in that moment, she realized that no amount of study could have truly prepared her for what it felt like.
I think there’s a similar gap between understanding what a submissive wants and actually feeling subspace, rope high, sub frenzy, or sub drop. We talk about these things, we analyze them, but experiencing them firsthand is completely different. I wonder how many tops have ever truly felt what it’s like to be in those states—or if they can ever fully grasp the depth of the experience just by learning about it.
I’ve had this conversation a million times—should you use a toy on yourself before using it on someone else, just so you know what it feels like? I miss the old days when I had a group of sadistic friends, and we’d just get together and beat the shit out of each other. Not sexually—literally, “hit me with this so I know what it feels like.” Now, it seems like everyone’s too proud to take an ass-beating, but they sure love dishing them out. Funny how things change.
I wouldn’t even call it bottoming—it was just horseplay. Find the scariest fucker in the room and see who quits first. I got to experience so much that way, yelling, “That all you got, little bitch?!” Good times. Love you guys John Wolf Chris
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