A request is either a choice or a demand—there is no in-between. The difference is revealed the moment you say no. A demand punishes refusal, branding it as defiance. And when faced with a demand, you are given only two paths: submit or rebel. We are not born slaves! We will not bow, no matter who speaks. The instant judgment, blame, or criticism follows, the illusion of a request is shattered.
Yet how often do we deceive ourselves? How often do we dress our demands in?
- “He should…”
- “She’s supposed to…”
- “I deserve…”
- “I’m justified…”
- “I have a right to…”
These are but whispers of control, silent chains, forged with our own words. But true requests—do not seek to coerce, but they awaken, they invite, us to connect. Words are power itself! They create, they bind, and they command. Judgment, guilt, shame, and criticism are weapons, wielded to twist others to our whim. They are desperate attempts to force alignment through decree.
But we see. And we refuse .
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