It’s always interesting navigating the complexities of pay-for-play in the kink world, especially within the Black community. This is the second time I’ve gotten pushback on my charging for rope sessions, and it’s made me reflect on how I approach this aspect of my practice.

To be clear, my rates are not about valuing or devaluing someone else’s skills or worth—far from it. They reflect the time, effort, and energy I put into creating safe, intentional, and meaningful experiences. But I also recognize that for many, kink is deeply personal, sacred, and rooted in connection, not commerce. I feel that too.

Still, I’m not sure how I feel about the idea that charging automatically makes the experience less genuine. To me, it’s about sustainability. It’s about honoring the energy exchange in ways that feel fair to both sides. That’s why I offer options like fair energetic exchanges—collaborating on content, energy work, rituals, or other projects that align with our shared passions.

I understand the barriers that Black people in kink face—financial, cultural, systemic—and I’m constantly thinking about how to reduce them while also respecting my own boundaries and the labor that goes into this work.

Rope has always been about connection, healing, and transformation for me. It’s not just a “session”; it’s an intentional act, a shared moment, and sometimes even a ritual. Charging doesn’t change that for me, but I get why it might feel different to someone else.

If this resonates or if you have thoughts to share, let’s talk. I’m always open to learning, reflecting, and evolving in this space. Let’s grow together.